A Positive Legacy of Deception – Part 3

Several months ago I started a blog series about spotting the deceivers and liars among us.  The ideas came from my own experience of trying to learn this discernment.  I dropped the series after the second post while I did some more important processing.

Now, back for a second season -- four more posts on how to spot a deceiver!


A Positive Legacy of Deception -- Part 3

Here are some pointers on how to set boundaries and protect yourself from someone who could be surreptitiously, rather than openly, trying to take advantage of you.

When you are being deceived you don’t know you are being deceived!  But you can learn to spot a deceiver before they have a chance to pull you into their web.

Some behaviors that can alert you are:                                            

• If they seem too good to be true, they are.
• If they are charismatic and polished and get into your good graces immediately, be cautious.
• If they trade on their charisma and press for some type of involvement without a proven track record, slow down.
• If they suggest activities or commitment from you that seems premature, but when you hesitate they appear not to care, be suspicious.
• Don’t think that observing good behavior for a few weeks or months can really tell you their character. 
• If you haven’t known them for years, get “character references” from those who have known them longer before committing to a deeper relationship.

Flying off to Las Vegas for a quickie wedding is out!

Thankfully yours,

Lorraine